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  • 1.  Discussion: is it in your head?

    Posted May 25, 2023 04:51 PM

    I found myself in a meeting with two male colleagues yesterday. I'm unsure if it came from the meeting we were all on, or if it was something I picked up on - I sometimes felt the way they were speaking to each other is different than they way they both spoke to me. Do you ever find yourself picking up on little things? How do you navigate those feelings or perceptions? Let's start a discussion!

    Katie Falk
    Evergreen Consulting Group

  • 2.  RE: Discussion: is it in your head?

    Posted May 26, 2023 08:42 AM

    I have very similar feelings in the past. If you felt it, it is likely that someone else did as well.  I depends on your work culture, if you feel comfortable talking to the team about it - I would suggest doing that. If it continues to happen and effects your ability to speak out and speak often  - you may need to escalate.  I find that journaling really helps. You can journal on paper, or have a private vlog to yourself. It helps you identify if other personal factors may be effecting your feelings or if this is serious and needs addressed. Good Luck ��

  • 3.  RE: Discussion: is it in your head?

    Posted May 26, 2023 11:24 AM

    I am in "academic mode" right now, so my answer is that the males are mirroring each other, and speaking to each other in the same way. It's more work for them to do the same with you, so they are switching to a different communication pattern. As women, I find that either we have to put in more effort to mirror what the guys are doing ( like that whole conversation about playing golf to fit in and not miss out) which leads to assimilation behaviour, or we have the "I am what I am approach (like Popeye) where we are present as ourselves, but may not be getting the full level of opportunities or engagement with the team. 

    The 3rd option has to be inclusion where we are meeting people where they are and including them for all of their Charisma, Uniqueness, Nerve, and Talent.  Yes I am quoting RuPaul... Katie, they need to see all of you, and mirror your great energy, passion, and killer laugh. 

    Final quote of the reply. "Fred Astaire was great, but don't forget that Ginger Rogers did everything he did, backwards … and in high heels."

    Gillian Saidman
    Independent Consultant
    Pointe Claire